Sometimes the things that are free are those which cost the most.

Written By: Bradley Vladic

January 27, 2018

An essay by Bradley Vladic
The quote “Sometimes the things that are free are those which cost the most.”, by Dr. Parker really hits home to me. This quote can help bring to light multiple instances of my life to which I should have heeded this advice. Another translation of this quote to me would be “You don’t know what you got, until its gone.”. In the following paragraphs, I will compare my life to this quote and offer my perception.
In my life I have made multiple mistakes and often took important things for granted. One of the most important things I had taken for granted was my freedom. I feel we have all heard the saying “Freedom isn’t free”, and I had learned that the hard way. I am a recovering alcoholic and after multiple run-ins with the law I was admitted into an inpatient treatment facility. One of the quotes they used often there was “The Price of Freedom is Responsibility!”, which I interpreted to mean you must act and be responsible as well as make responsible decisions. Hearing Dr. Parkers quote made me think of this quote almost instantly because for most “free” things there is a cost whether it be responsibility, kindness, helpfulness, or love.
The other quote I mentioned “You don’t know what you got, until its gone”, also rings true in my life. To me the quote is talking about taking things for granted. I have taken many things for granted in my life, most of which free things that are given or earned, that I had lost or close to losing. I had been very selfish due to my alcoholism and other peoples feeling often were not taken in to consideration. I had the love of family and friends, the love of my wife, and freedom. I had pushed away friends and family and wife by being selfish and keeping them at a distance as to keep my drinking and poor decision-making a secret. And by avoiding their “judgements” I had lost my freedom and some trust and love from the ones that I truly loved and needed in my life.
So, in retrospect I see that if I had made the tougher decisions, payed the “cost” by being responsible, and taking the time to be a better person to the people I cared about the “free” things in my life would not have been lost and probably would have found more “free” things available to me.
In conclusion, I have made a conscience effort to be a better person and husband be being responsible and unselfish. I have made better decisions, been more involved in my sons’ lives, and volunteered in my community. I have attempted to help multiple people overcome their addictions as well as been an assistant coach to my son’s soccer team, attending Cub Scout meetings with him, and try to improve their life by helping them with their journey through life. Also, I am attempting to achieve a college degree in Computer Systems Technology to better be able to support my family. It takes a concentrated effort to be a better person as well as enormous amounts of time to receive the things in life that matter most to us. Those things are priceless and therefore free but by no means doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work to get those things in life.